It was 1990, I was 16 and I started my working life in the world of International Banking. After walking every inch of the City of London for 2 weeks and handwriting 53 letters I had my first interview, it was with Coutts & Co, bankers to the Queen.
In my interview I was asked "where can you see yourself in 20 years time" I had never been asked that before and I had definitely not looked that far in to the future. Yet, without hesitation I replied " Here, on the Board of Directors" the response was swift "there hasn't been a woman on the Board of Directors in nearly 300 hundred years" "there is a first time for everything I remarked"
2 weeks later I was offered the job. My journey had begun.
In 1997, after burning the candle at both ends, well to be honest I burnt it down to the wick - early mornings and late nights, I was diagnosed with ME (Myalgic Encephalomyelitis), otherwise known as CFS (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome), my body seemed to shut down, I was 23.
My first question was “am I going to die” when the answer was “no” I knew I had to change.
After 18 months of not functioning very well at all, I began to get strength back and decided I needed to regain my life, take back control. I studied and qualified as a Personal Trainer and Sports Therapist and studied Lifestyle Management, I had to understand what my body needed to be well.
In 2005 I was blessed with the birth of my daughter, she arrived with a whole host of new life and health lessons for me to learn and keep learning on a daily basis. Having my daughter made me see the world differently, I had become a mother, a teacher, a cheerleader, a mentor, a role model and a protector over night. I wanted and needed to be the best version of myself.
4 years later, I met my husband, we merged two families and nurtured them to grow into one.
Then, one morning I woke, I went into the bathroom and looked in the mirror and cried, I had no idea who this woman was, I didn't recognise her at all, she didn't look like me and I didn't feel like me. I sat on the floor for an hour sobbing.
I was scared, confused and felt incredibly lost. I was 38
After 4 years and what felt like a weekly increase in symptoms and after being told I was depressed and it was all in my mind along with "you are too young to be going through the Menopause". I finally discovered I was going through the Peri-Menopause, all the symptoms of the menopause but still having periods ....Yay
There was answer - hallelujah
To date I have gone through lots of change, Career; I no longer wanted to head to the board of Coutts, I learnt a new skill and found a love of learning, and started my own business, Relationships; Adam Ant and Matt Goss were no longer top of my husband list, but I did met and marry the love of my life, Parenting; I became a mum, then I was luckily enough to be embraced by 3 children as their step mum. Health: I battled through ME and learned so much about what I needed to be well and now I am embracing the peri menopause - Embracing change and writing the next chapter of my amazing story.
What my life of change has taught me is that I have an overwhelming desire to live a long, very long life, but a healthy, happy, balanced, purposeful life. Change has also shown me that I am braver and stronger than I could ever of imagined.
I also knew that I wanted to be able to empower and inspire others to do the same.
With this in mind, I set about practising what I wanted to teach.
Activity, healthy clean plant based eating, daily gratitude, honest open communication, building and developing relationships, enjoying adventures and creating memories.
Suddenly, energy and happiness crept out of their hiding places and I feel like this is just the beginning.
My passion led me to create The Purposeful Life, My purpose is to pay it forward.
I am a passionate learner, dedicated to paying forward what I have learned.
I am here to help you on your journey to find your purposeful life and the ultimate balance.
So, what is your purpose?
Your Soul already knows why you are here, what your loves are, what makes you happy and what inspires you to be the greatest version of yourself.
You get so caught up in listening to others opinions and advice, that you have just forgotten to listen to yourself.
Or perhaps you just need somebody to listen to you.
I am here to not only listen but more importantly to hear you and take you on a journey of rediscovery.